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My Ex Has Turned My Son Against Me

By on September 28, 2008 in Values & Beliefs

Question: Dear Luise: My ex-husband is bitter and has turned my son against me. I am so hurt and tired of my son making excuses not to see me. He will only do something with me if my adult daughter makes him. My ex-husband won’t even answer the phone, so I can talk to him about it. R.

Answer: How sad it is to know that there are adults who are wiling prey on children this way. It is all too common. The kids are used as pawns on the relationship battlefield and it is my opinion that the parents who do that are without conscience.

I don’t know of anything you can do when that happens. Attempting to reason with your ex or your son will probably just add fuel to the fire. Your ex is going to keep it up for as long as he does and your son is going to buy into it for as long as he does.

Often, waiting for change to occur is the only option. Kids have been known to eventually see through such manipulation and former spouses have been known to tire of being abusive. In the meantime, know that it isn’t you that is causing this mess. Blessings, Luise

About Luise Volta

Luise’s long life has brought her to being the great grandmother of four teenagers. Born in 1927, the miles in between her teens and theirs have been full of falling and getting up, learning and growing and then falling and getting up again. A normal, though not simple, process. She has had diverse careers in nursing, teaching preschool, interior design, Real Estate sales, insurance adjusting and dairy herd testing. She’s lived in the Mid-west, South and West Coast. Luise is married to the love of her life, Val, born in 1911. Their little terrier, “Rosa,” makes most of the major decisions at their house, (or thinks she does).
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2 Responses to My Ex Has Turned My Son Against Me

  1. T. June 15, 2011 at 1:42 pm #

    Hello,

    I am also looking for someone who can help me with the crime that my ex has comitted against me by turning my son against me since literally right after I said we are separated and that I wanted a divorce. He has done everything you can imagine. But he is not the only one. I met a wierdo at a place where we worked together and because I was a friend to him but didn’t want to go any further, he has been furious with me ever since. He’s a stalker, both online and phone wiretapping. He’s been listening in on me since 1991 but recorded conversations both over the phone and in my home starting in Jan. of 2000 when I got together with my husband that I am married to now. He sent recordings to both my kids’ phones, recorded conversations that he KNEW they would not like and would turn them against me. He convinced at least 75 or more people to believe his lies about me, causing me to lose my job and then following me to my next job and the next after that doing the same thing. He also caused my husband to lose numerous jobs by sending them recordings, both real and faked.
    Is there anything a mother can do when the ex turns her son against her? T.

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    • Luise June 15, 2011 at 4:09 pm #

      I would see an attorney ASAP to find out what your rights are and how to protect them. Blessings, Luise

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