Comments on: My Daughter-in-law is Causing Serious Problems http://www.momresponds.com/609/daughter-in-law-a-porblem/ Luise Addresses Your Interests With Wisdom and Love Thu, 04 Dec 2008 01:19:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Luise http://www.momresponds.com/609/daughter-in-law-a-porblem/#comment-5129 Luise Thu, 02 Oct 2008 16:21:18 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/609/daughter-in-law-a-porblem/#comment-5129 Here is a new comment: This isn't so much a question as a comment; this is to the grandmother who is afraid she won't be able to see her grandchildren. While I understand letting the son and daughter in law become their own family, she DOES have options. Most states have 'grandparent' rules, and she may want to check with an attorney to see about the rules in her state. D. Here is a new comment: This isn’t so much a question as a comment; this is to the grandmother who is afraid she won’t be able to see her grandchildren.

While I understand letting the son and daughter in law become their own family, she DOES have options. Most states have ‘grandparent’ rules, and she may want to check with an attorney to see about the rules in her state. D.

]]> By: Luise http://www.momresponds.com/609/daughter-in-law-a-porblem/#comment-5119 Luise Tue, 30 Sep 2008 00:06:11 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/609/daughter-in-law-a-porblem/#comment-5119 Dear S.: What is so hard is such circumstances is the fact that your son is the one calling the shots. He is staying and he is putting up with what's going on. You have no authority to intervene or interfere. By staying, he is condoning his wife's actions as well as his mother-in-law's. His non-action has taken you out of the equation. His attitude is about his love for his children and the rest just follows. Blessings, Luise Dear S.: What is so hard is such circumstances is the fact that your son is the one calling the shots. He is staying and he is putting up with what’s going on. You have no authority to intervene or interfere. By staying, he is condoning his wife’s actions as well as his mother-in-law’s. His non-action has taken you out of the equation. His attitude is about his love for his children and the rest just follows. Blessings, Luise

]]> By: S. http://www.momresponds.com/609/daughter-in-law-a-porblem/#comment-5117 S. Mon, 29 Sep 2008 18:35:04 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/609/daughter-in-law-a-porblem/#comment-5117 Desperate! My son and daughter-in law have been married for 5 years .They have two lovely daughters.My daughter-in laws mother chooses to interfere all the time, and making my son miseralbe. He will not divorse her, because he loves her. She takes her children to her Moms or her Mom gets the girls everyday. My son works shift work and very rarely sees his girls. She doesnt want him to have a relationship with his children . the oldest tells her dad she hates him, which makes my daughter-in laws mother very happy. When its my turn to have the girls they are either sick or at her moms. I hardly ever see the girls. Myself and my daughter-in laws mother do not get along. She treats my son terrible. My son wont leave the relationship because of his love for his children. The youngest loves her dad.My daughter-in law and I have had words and I don't speak to her for what she is doing to my son and my grandkids. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! S. Desperate! My son and daughter-in law have been married for 5 years .They have two lovely daughters.My daughter-in laws mother chooses to interfere all the time, and making my son miseralbe. He will not divorse her, because he loves her. She takes her children to her Moms or her Mom gets the girls everyday. My son works shift work and very rarely sees his girls. She doesnt want him to have a relationship with his children . the oldest tells her dad she hates him, which makes my daughter-in laws mother very happy. When its my turn to have the girls they are either sick or at her moms. I hardly ever see the girls. Myself and my daughter-in laws mother do not get along. She treats my son terrible. My son wont leave the relationship because of his love for his children. The youngest loves her dad.My daughter-in law and I have had words and I don’t speak to her for what she is doing to my son and my grandkids. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! S.

]]> By: Luise http://www.momresponds.com/609/daughter-in-law-a-porblem/#comment-5100 Luise Tue, 23 Sep 2008 22:54:07 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/609/daughter-in-law-a-porblem/#comment-5100 Dear S. You can to talk with your son about the falsehoods and the fights...if he is willing to hear you. A big "if", I know. Blinders often come with love. If he won't listen, there is nothing I know of that you can do. The other side of the coin is that if you talk with him, it may do more harm than good. He will probably tell her and then things could get worse. You are between a rock and a hard place, even if you do nothing. He is making choices that are going to change the family dynamics radically. Blessings, Luise Dear S. You can to talk with your son about the falsehoods and the fights…if he is willing to hear you. A big “if”, I know. Blinders often come with love. If he won’t listen, there is nothing I know of that you can do. The other side of the coin is that if you talk with him, it may do more harm than good. He will probably tell her and then things could get worse. You are between a rock and a hard place, even if you do nothing. He is making choices that are going to change the family dynamics radically. Blessings, Luise

]]> By: S. http://www.momresponds.com/609/daughter-in-law-a-porblem/#comment-5099 S. Tue, 23 Sep 2008 22:38:24 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/609/daughter-in-law-a-porblem/#comment-5099 Hello, I don't have a daughter in law yet but my son's girlfriend is already causing problems. She gets into fights with both my other two sons and their girlfriends. She has told my son things that I have said but never did say them. I just don't know what to do. They are talking about getting married. I have tried several times to get to know her but she won't let me. S. Hello, I don’t have a daughter in law yet but my son’s girlfriend is already causing problems. She gets into fights with both my other two sons and their girlfriends. She has told my son things that I have said but never did say them. I just don’t know what to do. They are talking about getting married. I have tried several times to get to know her but she won’t let me. S.

]]> By: Luise http://www.momresponds.com/609/daughter-in-law-a-porblem/#comment-5091 Luise Sun, 21 Sep 2008 15:15:05 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/609/daughter-in-law-a-porblem/#comment-5091 Dear T. I don't know of anything that will work. Our kids grow up and make their own choices regarding life-partners and life-styles. Your son chose this woman and they are creating a new family unit. If they want to include you, that's great but/and if they decide not to include you, it is their decision. There is no way to become part of their lives because they have deliberately closed the door. They have that right, no matter how stupid it is to do such a thing (because they are obviously the stupid ones, not you) and no matter how many people they hurt in the process. Focus on what works in your family, you have a lot to be thankful for and do your best to let go of what isn't working. Blessings, Luise Dear T. I don’t know of anything that will work. Our kids grow up and make their own choices regarding life-partners and life-styles. Your son chose this woman and they are creating a new family unit. If they want to include you, that’s great but/and if they decide not to include you, it is their decision. There is no way to become part of their lives because they have deliberately closed the door. They have that right, no matter how stupid it is to do such a thing (because they are obviously the stupid ones, not you) and no matter how many people they hurt in the process. Focus on what works in your family, you have a lot to be thankful for and do your best to let go of what isn’t working. Blessings, Luise

]]> By: T. http://www.momresponds.com/609/daughter-in-law-a-porblem/#comment-5090 T. Sun, 21 Sep 2008 14:56:51 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/609/daughter-in-law-a-porblem/#comment-5090 My daughter in law is possessive of my son and jealous and outright rude to my husband, myself, and our daughter and her 2 boys. She doesn't like it if our son spends time with any of us, or even his 2 nephews. Now she is having her first child and I know I will not get to be close to this grandchild. How do I get in? I miss my son and do not see him much...every 2 years of so for a hour maybe. I want to be as close to my granddaughter as I am with my 2 grandsons. My son cant even spend time with his sister or her children. I try to talk to my daughter-in-law and she treats me like I am stupid. She is a veterinarian. So is my son. If we make plans, she sabotages them saying she is sick or tired and needs to leave early or cancel. Willing to try anything to make it work. T. My daughter in law is possessive of my son and jealous and outright rude to my husband, myself, and our daughter and her 2 boys. She doesn’t like it if our son spends time with any of us, or even his 2 nephews. Now she is having her first child and I know I will not get to be close to this grandchild. How do I get in? I miss my son and do not see him much…every 2 years of so for a hour maybe. I want to be as close to my granddaughter as I am with my 2 grandsons. My son cant even spend time with his sister or her children. I try to talk to my daughter-in-law and she treats me like I am stupid. She is a veterinarian. So is my son. If we make plans, she sabotages them saying she is sick or tired and needs to leave early or cancel. Willing to try anything to make it work. T.

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