MomResponds # 533 - I Always Get Mad at School
Dear Luise: I always get mad in my school. X
Answer: Dear X. That is pretty much a statement, not a question. Still, I would like to suggest that you look more closely at what makes you mad at school and what doesn’t.
Many of us spend a lot more time struggling against how people, places and things are than we do finding a way to make it work. A huge amount of energy, and anger takes energy, can be wasted on not liking how life is. This not only hurts us by keeping us feeling really rotten, but if affects those around us because feeling rotten is “catching.”
Going to school can be a drag. I don’t argue that. However, when school is over and you enter into adulthood, work can also be a drag…at least at times. Not having life be the way it is can be the cause of most of that.
Start an “Up-journal” and see if you can watch all day long for something good to put into it. Even if there is just one kind word or one pleasant happening in the entire day, write it down. Review it at night. You can actually get so negative that you end up missing the good stuff. Watch your journal for an increase, no matter how slow, in entries that are positive. You can even find ways to make them happen. Don’t write about anything else.
Much of life is perception. How we interpret what is going on. Don’t let yourself get into the habit of looking for things that make you mad. You could still be doing it when you are my age and that would make for a pretty miserable way to spend decade after decade.
I’m not talking here about lying to your self and trying to be a fake Miss Merry Sunshine. That’s a total waste of time and actually makes things worse. I’m talking about being sincerely willing to see what feels good and what works…even if it is fairly rare at first. It will increase, I promise. Blessings, Luise
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