Comments on: I’m Not Ready for Sex but He Is

By: Luise

Luise — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 19:34:56 +0000

Dear P. It’s a tough call. Too soon, and sex just complicates what was meant to be childhood. Too late and you kind of dry up. Cultures differ and so do times.
We need to fit into our own society and we also need to be respectful of our own attitudes and opinions. Not always easy to find someone who is on the same wave-length. I know a couple that just got married this month that were both virgins. She’s in her late 20s and he’s 37. I’m not sure the marriage vows are going to give them a new view of things…but who knows? Blessings, Luise

By: P.

P. — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 15:24:04 +0000

Well, I am a 22 yr old virgin (haha, first kiss at age 20!) And I’ve dated (or been on dates because that’s as far as it gets lol) several guys. ranging from a week to 3 months of interaction. And I was left almost every single time. And do you know why? Because I didn’t have sex with them when THEY wanted to. [for clarification that means no sexual activity whatsoever between us other than kissing] A guy can pressure me all he wants but I’ll never give in prematurely. If I don’t feel 100% ready then it’s not going to happen buddy! plain and simple. And it’s not about religion if there’s anyone wondering…it’s a personal choice. If a guy can’t respect my boundaries and decisions then he definitely will not respect me.What does that say about a future together. It says to me that a guy doesn’t care about my opinions and that he is selfish. I refuse to get run over and commandeered by a dude who is only after one thing. P.

By: Luise

Luise — Sat, 19 Apr 2008 00:09:33 +0000

Well put! Thank you! Luise

By: L.

L. — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 23:18:37 +0000

All my friends who have had sex in their early teens have regretted it. You gain more respect from a boy by abstaining than yielding under pressure. While girls that are sexually active appear to get a lot of attention it is only because boys want one thing! I am just 20 and still a virgin and I can honestly say my friends are envious of that. Sex is special, if you are unsure whether you want to or not than you most likely don’t really want to. Wait untill you are 100% sure. Good luck!