One major thing that bothers me is that every single time my husband and her text back and forth they end their texts with “kisses, I love you”. This is very strange for me because I know him and I do not do this and I certainly do not do that with my parents. I feel like little things like that should be kept between husband and wife as they should have a more special relationship than a mother and son. I believe that God meant for the son to leave his mother and cleave to his wife and they become one. So no other relationship compares to what a husband and wife relationship should be.

She is remarried and my husbands father doesn’t live in this country but she still calls my husband to do “little favors for mommy” as she calls it. I feel like some of those favors are things you ask of your husband not your son that already has his own family to worry about. Things like, look this up for me and print this out for me and bring it over and come to the store with me so I can purchase a camera. Her husband is younger than she is (he is in fact closer to my husbands age than to her age) and is completely capable of doing the things she asks of my husband.

She also says things when we are visiting her that really get to me. She does it so subtly that when I mention it to my husband he just thinks I am crazy. She will talk about other peoples weight and say things like “she has a huge belly and I thinks she just gave up, she looks horrible”. I have gained 25 lbs. after having our second child and have not lost it. She is OBSESSED with weight and body image. She always talks about how she is soooo fat and how she needs to work out more. This lady is not fat at all and has a fit body. She makes me feel like if she thinks she is in such bad shape what does she think about me? She will say things about pregnant ladies she says she sees out at the store and says that they are so skinny and only have a baby bump and that she thinks that is SO cute. She never once mentioned anything about how cute I was as a pregnant woman. I was never overweight and I believe I looked really beautiful while pregnant.

Whenever we are together which is about two or three times a month she continually interrupts me. We are all having a conversation but whenever I want to say something she interrupts me half sentence and I just find that extremely rude. I don’t want to talk over her and want to give her the respect she does deserve and I feel like she does it in such a “nice” way that everyone else would just say or think that is just the way she is.

Another thing that really bothers me to the point of feeling extremely uncomfortable is that whenever we go to see her she says “hi” to me and my daughters and kisses us on the cheek as it is our custom but to my husband she gives him extremely long hugs and she will hang on his shoulders and squeeze him. I have seen a few times that she will go sit on his lap and hug his neck sometimes. Or she will sit next to him on the couch and turn her legs up and rests them on his. She has asked him a couple of times to take off his shirt so that she could see his progress (like I said she is obsessed with fitness)and she like touches his muscles. It is just super weird to me and I get so uncomfortable. My husband has a tattoo that says “mom” and one that says “dad” and he also has our daughters names tattooed. One of the times she asked him to take his shirt off she say the tattoo that says “mom”, which she had already seen multiple times and touched it and said “awwwww” and hugged him.

She also always comments on how much our daughters only look like me and how she thinks they do not look like my husband. Everybody else notices how much they look like their dad. I mean, our youngest looks exactly like him but she insists she only looks like me.

These are all the major things I am really hurt about but there are more little ones she does and says here and there. I do not want to be jealous of her or think that she doesn’t like me but that is all I feel. Please help me because it is beginning to affect my relationship with my husband. I just feel like I will never hold a candle to his mom. C.