Comments on: Where Do I Stand with a Separated/Married Man

By: R..

R.. — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 16:42:31 +0000

This has helped me alot because i am in the situaton and can see both sides.But in the end its about doing whats right…R.

By: Luise

Luise — Sat, 07 May 2011 17:12:31 +0000

I don’t know where you live or what the laws are but as far as I know…no one can get remarried without getting divorced first.

By: J.

J. — Sat, 07 May 2011 14:16:39 +0000

good day im 26 years old i just wanna ask you if it possible remarried if i separed for 8 years? J.

By: Luise

Luise — Fri, 29 Apr 2011 19:34:33 +0000

He sounds like a loser to me. You deserve a lot better than that.

By: C.

C. — Fri, 29 Apr 2011 17:01:38 +0000

i HAVE BEEN DATING A MARRIED MAN OFF AND ON SINCE SEPT 2009. WE MEET ONLINE AND HAVE BEEN SEXUAL MANY TIMES. HIS WIFE IS ETHIOPIAN & THEY HAVE SMALL CHILDREN. HE TOLD ME HE LOVES ME BUT WANTS TO HAVE 3 SOMES. WE DID TWO TOGETHER BUT HE IS STILL ASKING FOR MORE, NEEDLESS TO SAY I AM TIRED OF THIS.
HE HAS DONE NOTHING THOUGHTFUL FOR ME IN OUR TIME. ALTHOUGH WE HAVE HAD SOME FUN TIMES. I DO LOVE HIM BUT RECENTLY WE ENDED IT. HE IS NOT AVAILABLE & I TOLD HIM TO WORL IT OUT WITH HIS WIFE. I NEED TO BE NUMBER ONE PERIOD. C.

By: Luise

Luise — Thu, 21 Oct 2010 04:18:44 +0000

You deserve so much better but if you don’t value yourself enough to find it, you will continue to take whatever crumbs he throws your way. Get some counseling…and work on self-esteem. You’re worth it! Blessings, Luise

By: J

Mon, 18 Oct 2010 22:22:05 +0000

Hi, I’m 20 years old and was “dating” a man who is twice my age and married (although separated for 17 years). I left him 2 weeks ago after 2 years- of- him, being “confused”. I quoted the Bible, and told him I couldn’t be with him. I know it is the correct thing, because he is used to having relationships in the situation he is in. I joined a group for love addicts, and was doing better but then he called. Ofcourse he does not plan to fix anything because he is “not ready”, but he shakes my world. Emotions are at the edge. And I called him yesterday, and told him I loved him, he said he loved me too but that I was really clear and asked for a break-up. I feel awful becasue I know I deserve a real relationship and I know the man I love and laughs at my not so good jokes, does not want me in his life, the way I wish he were in mine.
He wants to talk as friends, but I think it’s healthy. He doesn’t want me dating anyone right now, and I asked him the same. His answer was, “I’ll think about it.”
This was my first relationship and It hurts horribly. J.

By: Luise

Luise — Wed, 22 Sep 2010 00:29:38 +0000

You are feeling used because that’s what’s happening. What you want isn’t part of the picture. I think it’s time to move on to a relationship where you are valued and respected.

By: M.

M. — Sat, 11 Sep 2010 14:29:09 +0000

Hi. I am a 36 years old guy dating a 66 years old man who still living with his ex and they have been together for 16 year. I just can’t bear this situation anymore. He doesn’t want to leave his ex and move on with me instead he wants us to be together during the weekend only and i just don’t know what i should do as this situation is hurting me too much and i am felling used by him. Please give me some advise.

By: Luise

Luise — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 22:12:19 +0000

Answer: Dear J. What a rocky road! Kind of like growing up with your kids, isn’t it? There is no way we can ever figure out why others do what they do. Our job is try to try figure out why we do what we do. (Like why you were willing “settle” for all of those years.)If your ex-boyfriend can’t accept your moving on…then he just can’t. Don’t let confusion take you over. Turn the page and start a new life without all of the lying and cheating in it. Blessings, Luise

By: J.

J. — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 20:26:05 +0000

I met a married man almost 9 years ago and when we met he told me he was separated. We hit it off right away on the first night, like everyone says soul mates. We continued dating for a few months. I was falling for him real bad when I got a call form his wife! Who then informed me that they were still together. We broke up after that for a few months and reconciled later. We had an understanding; I was the side girlfriend. I continued to date other people and still see him whenever we could see each other. We both had grown really close and I know he loved me. He helped me out in numerous ways and took time off to be with me almost every week, made sure he could get TDY in the town I lived in to be with me and we went on vacations here and there. Unfortunately, I always put him first and everyone else second. Well, eventually I met someone, my boyfriend tried to deter me from making this mistake. But I got married and had another child. My boyfriend and I broke up again and I thought I had moved on. But I always wanted to remain friends no matter what. I felt we could always do that and he always said no, either we’re together or we’re not. My current husband and I started to have problems and I ran back to him again. My husband and I are now getting a divorce and I met another man who is PERFECT and is everything I want. I saw my ex-boyfriend again for a little while and all the feelings came rushing back to me. I let out all kind of feelings that I usually hold back and he did too. He asked me something about having a baby with him (his wife won’t have anymore), talking about if we were really going to be together and sorry that he couldn’t be there for me during an incident last year and so on. Within a few days I sent him a message telling him it was over for good, I didn’t want to be friends/lovers anymore and that I was done. I met someone who is everything I ever wanted we’ve moved in together and have plans on getting married. I told me ex-boyfriend this and he is upset that I’m getting married again and won’t even speak to me. I’m just confused on how he can just be so mean after everything and all these years. J.