Comments on: My Mom’s Sudden Death Has Devastated Me

By: Luise

Luise — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 19:54:54 +0000

Dear M. That’s the way my oldest son went at age 52. No warning. It is terribly hard to accept and adjust to.
What wonderful advice, to keep on keepin’ on as they would have wished. I’m happy that there is no guilt attached to your “Better late than never” tasks. What a lovely relationship to cherish and remember. Blessings, Luise

By: M.

M. — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 19:32:51 +0000

For Everyone,
Less than 2 weeks ago, I lost my mother to Sudden Cardiac Arrest.
There were no signals or warning signs.
She was ripped from our lives as I stood there with my wife, helpless against it’s power.
Unlike some of the people that email you,I feel no guilt because I was a great son and I took care of her eventhough she did not need it.
There wasn’t a day that went by that I either went upstairs to see her or I just waved hello.
We were very close.
Yes, I have heard all the stories of how lucky she was that there was no suffering but I am having a great amount of difficulty dealing with the fact that I will never see her again in this life.
I want to believe that there is an afterlife and when it’s my time, I will be reunited with her and other passed family members.
The pain is sometimes so hard to bare but I know in my heart that she would not want this for us.
This is what has given me strength by doing the little things that she would nag me about but I wouldn’t do.
I guess the old saying of “Better late than never” applies here.
I know it is so hard to do but all of you need to start to live your life the way your passed parents would want you to.
This to me is the ultimate tribute you can pay them and it will help you out of this terrible time in your life. M.

By: Luise

Luise — Wed, 09 Jan 2008 16:01:43 +0000

Dear Ann; The answer is probably time and sharing with others. There probably is no perfect-parting. Who is ever going to be able to say she did everything right and has no regrets? Your Mom wasn’t alone, and you weren’t estranged…two things to be eternally grateful for. I still miss my Mom and she has undoubtedly been gone longer than you have been alive. Acceptance comes and peace with it. Blessings, Luise

By: Ann

Ann — Tue, 08 Jan 2008 16:42:13 +0000

I too lost my mother recently, on December 20, from sudden cardiac death. I was there with her. She just got dizzy, sat back in her chair and began breathing very hard. I leaned her back in her chair to make it easier for her to breathe and told her to keep breathing and come on back. She had recently changed her seizure medication and I thought at first that she was about to have a seizure. I realized quickly that her breaths were too far apart. I called 911, and her breathing stopped altogether. They told me to get her on the floor and walked me through doing CPR. I did the best I could, and the ambulance was there very quickly, then they rushed her to the hospital and did everything they could, but she never came back. I keep re-living this over and over again, thinking I should’ve known something or done something differently. She was my best friend and I miss her so. I understand what you’re going through. How do you get through the guilt and grief?

By: bobby chavez

bobby chavez — Tue, 23 Jan 2007 06:39:32 +0000

For those we love. We should know that some day it will come to us. A self of tears a wall full of memories a head full of laughter. As tears flood our faces we hurt, but we do not make the hurtful decisions. God makes these unknowing times for us to learn and share, but the one you loose knows you love and care.