Comments on: My Grandmother Died Without My Saying Goodbye http://www.momresponds.com/451/death-without-goodbyes/ Luise Addresses Your Interests With Wisdom and Love Thu, 20 Nov 2008 09:55:15 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Kate http://www.momresponds.com/451/death-without-goodbyes/#comment-4515 Kate Sat, 05 Apr 2008 03:03:57 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/451/death-without-goodbyes/#comment-4515 hi...my name is kate. i am 12. my nana is going to die anyday now. she is fragil and everytime i visit her she says the exact same thing from the last time. her mind is going to putty. i think about her all the time and i've even tryed praying for her. i know when she goes my mom will be a mess. what do i do? hi…my name is kate. i am 12. my nana is going to die anyday now. she is fragil and everytime i visit her she says the exact same thing from the last time. her mind is going to putty. i think about her all the time and i’ve even tryed praying for her. i know when she goes my mom will be a mess. what do i do?

]]> By: Luise http://www.momresponds.com/451/death-without-goodbyes/#comment-4466 Luise Thu, 20 Mar 2008 22:57:32 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/451/death-without-goodbyes/#comment-4466 Answer: Dear Nora: Most of us are still so raw at two months that very little helps. Time is needed. We don't feel we did enough no matter what others tell us...and the emptiness is just too much to even think of learning to be accepting. Of course we want our loved ones with us again! Yet...if we can accept life, it's our job to learn that death is what comes to one and all at the end of it. And none of us can decide when that's going to be. We can't keep anyone forever and we can't stay forever ourselves. On top of that, there just isn't any "good time" to let someone go. Hard lessons. Hang in there, that's all we can do, and it will get better. Acceptance does come and we all get closer, in the process, to knowing that we, too, will move on when the time is right. Blessings, Luise Answer: Dear Nora: Most of us are still so raw at two months that very little helps. Time is needed. We don’t feel we did enough no matter what others tell us…and the emptiness is just too much to even think of learning to be accepting. Of course we want our loved ones with us again! Yet…if we can accept life, it’s our job to learn that death is what comes to one and all at the end of it. And none of us can decide when that’s going to be. We can’t keep anyone forever and we can’t stay forever ourselves. On top of that, there just isn’t any “good time” to let someone go. Hard lessons. Hang in there, that’s all we can do, and it will get better. Acceptance does come and we all get closer, in the process, to knowing that we, too, will move on when the time is right. Blessings, Luise

]]> By: nora http://www.momresponds.com/451/death-without-goodbyes/#comment-4465 nora Thu, 20 Mar 2008 22:39:38 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/451/death-without-goodbyes/#comment-4465 I lost my mom 2 months ago and I still cant accept it. I dont want it to be true. Even though we were very close and I did just about everything I could for her, (so people tell me), I dont feel that way. I want her with me again. How do I over come that? I have tried writing to her but my feelings of sadness are still very strong. Can someone help? How can I know if shes OK and at peace? Thats very important to me. I lost my mom 2 months ago and I still cant accept it. I dont want it to be true. Even though we were very close and I did just about everything I could for her, (so people tell me), I dont feel that way. I want her with me again. How do I over come that? I have tried writing to her but my feelings of sadness are still very strong. Can someone help? How can I know if shes OK and at peace? Thats very important to me.

]]> By: Luise http://www.momresponds.com/451/death-without-goodbyes/#comment-4403 Luise Thu, 28 Feb 2008 01:23:35 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/451/death-without-goodbyes/#comment-4403 Thank you, Samee. Blessings, Luise Thank you, Samee. Blessings, Luise

]]> By: samee http://www.momresponds.com/451/death-without-goodbyes/#comment-4399 samee Wed, 27 Feb 2008 14:26:16 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/451/death-without-goodbyes/#comment-4399 My grandma died 4 years ago, too, and she was cremated as well. My parents and family thought that it would be better if I stayed in school. I remember that day like yesterday. We were really close. I lived with her most of my life. The night before she passed I decided that I was going to spend the night at my best friends house so I never got to say good bye or even talk to her before it happend. I just wish that my parents had come to get me so that I could have talked to her before she passed. I know what you are going through. I dont have anything to say that will help you besides saying that there are people out there going through the same thing as you and who care. My grandma died 4 years ago, too, and she was cremated as well. My parents and family thought that it would be better if I stayed in school. I remember that day like yesterday. We were really close. I lived with her most of my life. The night before she passed I decided that I was going to spend the night at my best friends house so I never got to say good bye or even talk to her before it happend. I just wish that my parents had come to get me so that I could have talked to her before she passed. I know what you are going through. I dont have anything to say that will help you besides saying that there are people out there going through the same thing as you and who care.

]]> By: Luise http://www.momresponds.com/451/death-without-goodbyes/#comment-4030 Luise Sun, 25 Nov 2007 18:50:20 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/451/death-without-goodbyes/#comment-4030 Answer: Desr Isey: What I did when my apparently healthy, grown son died suddenly was to get out a note book and write to him. I poured out how I felt and then I wrote an answer back to me from him. "We" kept up the dialogue until I was able to accept that he was gone from the physical universe. I believe he is a close as my heart and my menories. Just because you can't see your Grandmother, doesn't mean she isn't close and caring. Let the love in. Blessings. Luise Answer: Desr Isey: What I did when my apparently healthy, grown son died suddenly was to get out a note book and write to him. I poured out how I felt and then I wrote an answer back to me from him. “We” kept up the dialogue until I was able to accept that he was gone from the physical universe. I believe he is a close as my heart and my menories. Just because you can’t see your Grandmother, doesn’t mean she isn’t close and caring. Let the love in. Blessings. Luise

]]> By: Luise http://www.momresponds.com/451/death-without-goodbyes/#comment-4029 Luise Sun, 25 Nov 2007 18:45:56 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/451/death-without-goodbyes/#comment-4029 From Isey: My Grandmother died last night i never got to talk to her in 2 years. Can you help me. From Isey:

My Grandmother died last night i never got to talk to her in 2 years. Can you help me.

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