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My Grandmother Died Without My Saying Goodbye

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Question: Hi, I am a teen and I have a problem. Could you possibly offer me any advice??? About 4 years ago my Grandmother died :-( However I never got to speak to her before she died…nor attend her funeral. She was cremated. I still find it difficult to deal with and feel like I need to say goodbye properly. Do you have any suggestions as to how I can say goodbye to her?? Clemence

Answer: Dear Clemence: Many people believe that those who have passed on are still able to get our love loud and clear when we send it. It’s up to you, really, how you want to complete with your grandmother. Doing it is very wise and rewarding, to my way of thinking.

There are a lot of different ways you can do it, depending mostly on you belief systems. Some people use prayer and some use a person who they believe can reach others after death, but that can be costly. I did it after my son died and felt I made wonderful contact with him. He has always felt close since then. You can reach my clairvoyant, who is also a personal friend of mine, at: www.jennycrawford.com .

Another way I know of to connect with a departed loved one, if you don’t have the money to contact a capable and well-known psychic or don’t believe it is real, is to sit down quietly, alone, and write to her. You can do it over a period of time, adding more to your communication as you feel so inclined. You can even write answers back from her quite easily, if you are willing. Just get in touch with your memories of her and write what she would have written.

When you feel complete with the project you can create a ritual or ceremony and burn what you have written and bury the ashes. I have also done that and had a very positive experience.

Your grandmother was a very fortunate woman to have such a caring, loving grandchild. The fact that you are concerned about not saying goodbye and think of her often after four years speaks well of you. Blessings, Luise

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Comment by Luise

November 25, 2007 @ 11:45 am

From Isey:

My Grandmother died last night i never got to talk to her in 2 years. Can you help me.

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Comment by Luise

November 25, 2007 @ 11:50 am

Answer: Desr Isey: What I did when my apparently healthy, grown son died suddenly was to get out a note book and write to him. I poured out how I felt and then I wrote an answer back to me from him. “We” kept up the dialogue until I was able to accept that he was gone from the physical universe. I believe he is a close as my heart and my menories. Just because you can’t see your Grandmother, doesn’t mean she isn’t close and caring. Let the love in. Blessings. Luise

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Comment by samee

February 27, 2008 @ 7:26 am

My grandma died 4 years ago, too, and she was cremated as well. My parents and family thought that it would be better if I stayed in school. I remember that day like yesterday. We were really close. I lived with her most of my life. The night before she passed I decided that I was going to spend the night at my best friends house so I never got to say good bye or even talk to her before it happend. I just wish that my parents had come to get me so that I could have talked to her before she passed. I know what you are going through. I dont have anything to say that will help you besides saying that there are people out there going through the same thing as you and who care.

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Comment by Luise

February 27, 2008 @ 6:23 pm

Thank you, Samee. Blessings, Luise

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Comment by nora

March 20, 2008 @ 3:39 pm

I lost my mom 2 months ago and I still cant accept it. I dont want it to be true. Even though we were very close and I did just about everything I could for her, (so people tell me), I dont feel that way. I want her with me again. How do I over come that? I have tried writing to her but my feelings of sadness are still very strong. Can someone help? How can I know if shes OK and at peace? Thats very important to me.

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Comment by Luise

March 20, 2008 @ 3:57 pm

Answer: Dear Nora: Most of us are still so raw at two months that very little helps. Time is needed. We don’t feel we did enough no matter what others tell us…and the emptiness is just too much to even think of learning to be accepting. Of course we want our loved ones with us again! Yet…if we can accept life, it’s our job to learn that death is what comes to one and all at the end of it. And none of us can decide when that’s going to be. We can’t keep anyone forever and we can’t stay forever ourselves. On top of that, there just isn’t any “good time” to let someone go. Hard lessons. Hang in there, that’s all we can do, and it will get better. Acceptance does come and we all get closer, in the process, to knowing that we, too, will move on when the time is right. Blessings, Luise

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Comment by Kate

April 4, 2008 @ 8:03 pm

hi…my name is kate. i am 12. my nana is going to die anyday now. she is fragil and everytime i visit her she says the exact same thing from the last time. her mind is going to putty. i think about her all the time and i’ve even tryed praying for her. i know when she goes my mom will be a mess. what do i do?

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