Question: Dear Luise: My daughter has moved out once again, and has told me once again that I was the worst mother on planet earth and it’s my fault she turned out the way she did. She is 22, this is going to be the 5th guy she has shacked up with since she graduated high school, worst of all she has a baby girl that is 7 months old. I let her move back once again because of the baby. Next time I will have to tell her no, she can’t come back. Is that harsh? My family agrees with me, she has used and abused them as well. They tell me when her life falls apart again, and it will, I should not take her in again. They feel I need to let her go so she will realize what hard is. I wasn’t a perfect mom, but I was the best mom I knew how to be. She always had everything she needed and more. I think I just need confirmation from a non-related party. If you could help, I would appreciate it. K.
Answer: Dear K.: You are right on the money and I think you will need support to stick to your guns. As long as we come to the rescue of adult children who are refusing to grow up and become responsible for the consequences of their own choices and actions, we are underwriting their failure to do so. Please consider coming over to my Web-forum where you will meet and be welcomed into a community of understanding women to whom this is not new. You will need support to get back to your own life and let her get on with hers. We are at: www.WiseWomwnUnitel.com Blessings, Luise