http://www.momresponds.com/242/family-interference/ Luise Addresses Your Interests With Wisdom and Love Thu, 04 Dec 2008 05:08:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 http://www.momresponds.com/242/family-interference/#comment-5282 Luise Thu, 13 Nov 2008 00:55:51 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/?p=242#comment-5282 Dear M. This has to be between you and your husband. You are a couple. She is the outsider. You need his understanding and support after losing your Mom. You certainly wouldn't tell him to "just get over it", if it had been the other way around. And your money is about the two of you and the family unit you have established and represent. None of this can be about your husband and his Mom, with you being the outsider. The partnership between you and your husband needs to be seen as your priority. Work together on that. If you can't establish your solidarity and maintain it, face the fact that you don't have a marriage. Blessings, Luise Dear M. This has to be between you and your husband. You are a couple. She is the outsider. You need his understanding and support after losing your Mom. You certainly wouldn’t tell him to “just get over it”, if it had been the other way around. And your money is about the two of you and the family unit you have established and represent. None of this can be about your husband and his Mom, with you being the outsider. The partnership between you and your husband needs to be seen as your priority. Work together on that. If you can’t establish your solidarity and maintain it, face the fact that you don’t have a marriage. Blessings, Luise

]]> http://www.momresponds.com/242/family-interference/#comment-5281 M. Thu, 13 Nov 2008 00:42:21 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/?p=242#comment-5281 I try hard to get along with my MIL, but lately she has made it extremely hard. She spies on me, has convinced her son to go behind my back and set up a bank account with her. I love my husband but don't know what to do. I lost my own Mother 5 months ago and am being told by both to just get over it. She will get along if I will bow down and let her take my Mother's place. Please advise. M. I try hard to get along with my MIL, but lately she has made it extremely hard. She spies on me, has convinced her son to go behind my back and set up a bank account with her. I love my husband but don’t know what to do. I lost my own Mother 5 months ago and am being told by both to just get over it. She will get along if I will bow down and let her take my Mother’s place. Please advise. M.

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