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I’m Dying for a Grandchild

By on August 19, 2010 in Mental Health

Question: Dear Luise: My daughter is 29 and has no kids yet. I so want to have my grandchildren. I feel myself so deeply unhappy and depressed because of this wish. I know I should not press on my daughter about my wish .I feel she will get angry if I even let you know on my wish. I know I should just wait and hope. Could you give me any advice not to feel so unhappy. Thank you in advance. D.

Answer: Dear D.: You are the cause of your own unhappiness, of course. It’s a total waste of a good life to not have it be the way it is. It’s your daughter’s business, as you know and if you persist, your yearning could easily grow into an obsession.

Stop it while you still can. Start a “Gratitude List” and write down everything you are grateful for. (I do it every morning and every evening.) If you find yourself pining for the illusive grandchild during the day…read your list over and add one thing. Every time you re-read it, add one more.

You can also come over to my Web-forum where women help each other resolve their issues: www.WiseWomenUinte.com

And if it persists, see a counselor. You are so much more than your biological role. Blessings, Luise

About Luise Volta

Luise’s long life has brought her to being the great grandmother of four teenagers. Born in 1927, the miles in between her teens and theirs have been full of falling and getting up, learning and growing and then falling and getting up again. A normal, though not simple, process. She has had diverse careers in nursing, teaching preschool, interior design, Real Estate sales, insurance adjusting and dairy herd testing. She’s lived in the Mid-west, South and West Coast. Luise is married to the love of her life, Val, born in 1911. Their little terrier, “Rosa,” makes most of the major decisions at their house, (or thinks she does).
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