Why Does My Mom Keep Me In Prison?

Question: Dear Luise: Why is my mom and older brother bitter, selfish and over protecting? My mom won’t let me go out. At all. We went to therapy together and the lady said to at least let me go out with my friends and have fun in the mall. She has a gps in my cell phone and I hate that because everyday after school, i go to the store-not even far from my school and she gets mad and calls me. It’s like saying she goes with me school, home, and everywhere i go. I need space from her and my brother. I feel like a prisoner. I cant even go to my cousins house. I only could go out if my brother is going too. I don’t like him. We have nothing in common. Some days we love eachother and most days we don’t. Everytime me and my mom fight, he butts in and tries to be a father figure. I already have a dad! He lets me go out but what i have heard, my mom is the one who makes the rules. I can’t take them. I am really shy and this is making me unhealthy. The only thing fun to do is being in the computer and watching tv when I really prefer to go outside. I would read books but and love it but out of boredom, I would read a big book in two days. I find myself looking outside the window and seeing kids outside walking, playing…ect. I cry and feel lonley when I know I have know one to talk to. I go to school with a lot of friends and I go because I dislike being at home. I hate it when school ends because all I want to do is be with my bestfriends. One of my friends have over protecting mom but she can go out around her niegnothood at least. I feel left out and my mom would take my phone away when I would talk to my friends. Again i am alone. Here i am in the computer asking for help. I am sorry if it long. I do need help and I am growing angy each day. Strongly and severly. I am also afraid I would snap and hit my mom because my temper is expanding. She screams at me to much and is never ina  good mood with me. It is always a good one with my brother. Im sorry I say this and it is wrong but I realise I hate them. It’s no good. I wan’t to run away. My father does nothing. He doesn’t defend me. I guess because he is afraid to stand up to my mom. That’s how scary she is. I have no connections with this family. PLEASE! I need help and I don’t know what to do. M.

Answer: Dear M.: How awful. I’m so sorry you have to sit and wait to grow up to be able to have a life. It’s not fair…I agree with you completely. I’m so glad you have friends at school at least. Your mom thinks she is being a good mom and protecting you from harm. She really does. If you don’t fight her on this, she will calm down. When you are old enough to leave home you will find that there are lots of things you should have learned that you didn’t, because you’re not being given the chance. And you know that running away is worse, right? Kids die running away.

Hang in there…she can’t keep you under her thumb forever. I can tell you’re a nice person and deserve a lot better but unfortunately your mom’s in charge. Your time will come, honest. Don’t let this ruin who you are. Blessings, Luise