Question: Dear Luise: I’m only a senior in high school, but I already feel like I have a lot of issues. I have a great boyfriend, who’s always really understanding, affectionate, sweet and, supportive…everything I could ever want. The issue isn’t him; it’s me. I was emotionally abused by my past boyfriend; a relationship that lasted over two years, and I have a lot of unresolved issues with him and my father. My current relationship started out wonderful, like something out of a fairy tale. I was so happy, and I knew I was clinically depressed at the time, but still it was so great. Then things started winding down, and now I just feel so insecure. He’s been depressed for over a month, and he doesn’t know why. He insists it’s probably just temporary, but even if it isn’t he’ll still be here for me and make things worse. I just don’t know Luise. I want this relationship so badly. He seems like the perfect guy. At the same time, how can I stay when I myself am not a fully functioning person? Can I change and save this relationship from myself? How can I move on and embrace my current relationship? S.
Answer: Dear S.: High school can be difficult and so can relationships. Entering adulthood can be demanding. You have a lot going on.
We all have issues and we all have past circumstances that affect the present. It’s the human process.
However, when it looks like too much and you feel unsure about what’s supportive and/or which way to turn, one-on-one counseling can offer you a broader perspective. You deserve the best and right now that’s an advocate who can help you sort it all out. Blessings, Luise
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