Question: Dear Luise: Hey, what would you do in a situation where you went on a date that took your emotions for a whirlwind ride only to have the guy, who supposedly had a huge crush on you, let you go? Then go and try to contact you again after not speaking for 2 months? I’ve tried to forget about him but his name always comes up in the back of my head or in little signs everywhere. I ran my mouth with friends and feel horrible. I have a gut feeling it got back to him and I don’t want to end things badly. Is there anyway of saving our friendship due to my immaturity or should I just let it go? K.
Answer: Dear K.: Good for you for taking some of the responsibility for things never getting off the ground after a great first date. Certainly you aren’t the only one dealing with immaturity. The way the guy instantly dropped you was pretty low.
There’s a lesson, too, in what you say afterward to your friends when you know you’re in a tight community. Best to learn that early and practice caution.
You may remember the high points of that date fondly but I think I would still move on. The way he treated you later shows he has a lot of growing up to do. I’d ignore any follow-up interest; you can do a lot better than that. Blessings, Luise
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