Comments on: How Do I Accept and Explain Favoritism http://www.momresponds.com/1703/damafe-from-favoritism/ Luise Addresses Your Interests With Wisdom and Love Sun, 05 Feb 2012 03:37:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Luise http://www.momresponds.com/1703/damafe-from-favoritism/comment-page-1/#comment-7178 Luise Wed, 23 Dec 2009 18:37:38 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/?p=1703#comment-7178 Please consider coming over to my Web-forum where issues regarding adult children are addressed and support of offered. www.motherinlawsunite.com Please consider coming over to my Web-forum where issues regarding adult children are addressed and support of offered. http://www.motherinlawsunite.com

]]> By: J. http://www.momresponds.com/1703/damafe-from-favoritism/comment-page-1/#comment-7175 J. Mon, 21 Dec 2009 00:56:41 +0000 http://www.momresponds.com/?p=1703#comment-7175 Why shouldn't a conversation be had with the grandparents to let them know that the kids notice, it hurts the kids and parents, and it's causing hard feelings? I"m not saying demand they change...but let them know what's going on. I know in my own life I had grandparents who did much, much more for the other grandkids than us. It hurt us deeply. Even figuring out as I got older that the other cousins had a crappy homelife and grandma and grandpa were just helping out didn't ease the hurt. I very much resent being given crumbs of time and affection when my cousins got virtually the whole cake--just because my parents weren't irresponsible losers. To this day I have little relationship with my grandparents because of it. J. Why shouldn’t a conversation be had with the grandparents to let them know that the kids notice, it hurts the kids and parents, and it’s causing hard feelings? I”m not saying demand they change…but let them know what’s going on.

I know in my own life I had grandparents who did much, much more for the other grandkids than us. It hurt us deeply. Even figuring out as I got older that the other cousins had a crappy homelife and grandma and grandpa were just helping out didn’t ease the hurt. I very much resent being given crumbs of time and affection when my cousins got virtually the whole cake–just because my parents weren’t irresponsible losers. To this day I have little relationship with my grandparents because of it. J.

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