Question: Dear Luise: So me and my boyfriend have been together for bout half year. Towards the begining of our relationship i noticed he was always texting this girl. It didnt bug me at first however it consisted everyday. i started to get curious and annoyed so i read some text messages. ones that said “tell your girlfriend to get off your phone” “having problems with your girlfriend yet” and “come meet me swimming” This really irritated me so i told him that i was uncomfortable with the situation and he said i have nothing to worrie about she is harmless. So i let it continue, as i did it just drove me more crazy an made me upset so one night i was like whats going on why is this girl so important that u must do this and he said they have history together before we got together. So i told him this has got to stop or slow down. I made a point, how would he feel if i was chatty with guy i used to hook up with everyday, and he agreed and said he would be uncomfortable with this. However he continued to talk to her just not as much but when they did talk it was bad things about me and mine and his relationship. I let it slide but once i saw that she was calling me bad names, speaking badly of me and telling him to dump me i just cant take it. She has never met me or seen me. I really dont know what to do. he tells me hes done with her but i dont kno if i believe him. any advice would be great. I really wanna send her a message but i dont kno if my bf would be upset or do i have a right to? C.
Answer: Dear C.: Why do you care if you upset him or not? He’s been upsetting you for six months.
I would move on. Three’s a crowd. If he allows her to speck about you that way, they deserve each other and he definitely doesn’t deserve you.
She’s been in the picture since the beginning and six months of this kind of disrespect is enough. I don’t think your writing her would improve anything. I think she would use it against you, no matter what you said.
He’s still attached to her in some way. That’s pretty plain to see. Give yourself a break. You have confronted him and it still goes on and on. That’s it. Let him go; he’s never been your guy, not really. When a guy cares, he doesn’t act like that. Blessings, Luise
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