Question: Dear Luise: My son married a woman with two children and now they have had a child together. Up until this point I had a good relationship with my daughter in law now she’s questioning our love for her two other children. I told my son that it was only natural to pay more attention to a new baby. Not sure how to handle this situation. I feel like I’m walking on eggshells. M.
Answer: Dear M.: My guess is that this is something your DIL feared that she might do herself and so she will probably see it everywhere.
I would suggest that you agree with her that you are easily taken in by babies…any and all babies. Offer to help with the other children “because they are probably both feeling it, too.” And hold yourself back (I know, I know…it’s very hard) where the new one is concerned.
Your DIL is fragile right now. She’s got her hands full and two other children to lead through this potential mine field and her hormones are probably way off. Let her know you are there for her.
Please consider coming over to my other website with this issue. It is a forum: http://www.motherinlawsunite.com There’s a lot of combined wisdom there. Blessings, Luise