Comments on: Dealing With My Mom’s Death

By: Luise

Luise — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 00:21:23 +0000

Dear D. You are one of those rare people who have no regrets. If you are sure she would like you to do that on Thanksgiving this year then it will probably bring you comfort. Blessings, Luise

By: D.

D. — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 23:08:43 +0000

I lost my mom 2 days after Thanksgiving 2007, and buried her on her 74th birthday(nov.27,2007)This year Thankgiving is on her birthday, its hard to deal with. Its my 1st Thanksgiving without her. I never left her side in my 44 years on this earth. I will not celebrate or eat dinner this year.

By: Luise

Luise — Sun, 10 Feb 2008 04:09:51 +0000

Dear R. I don’t think we are ever ready to lose our parents and I don’t think we ever feel we did it right or did enough. It just happened. Of course you feel terrible. I know you did countless things that brought her joy. You just can’t remember them right now. Start writing down the good memories and when you can, focus on them, lovingly. Blessings, Luise

By: rick h

rick h — Sat, 09 Feb 2008 22:41:42 +0000

My mum pasted away on Jan. 9th. 2008 but we didn’t bury her till 30th, Jan. I have never felt so much pain in my life. I just wish it would stop. I live in Yorkshire and my mum lived in Coventry. I feel guilty that I didnt get to see her on the day she pasted away. Plus my family didn’t inform me and I had no say in the funeral arrangements. So why do I feel so empty and guilty? For the first time in life I feel so scared. R.

By: Luise

Luise — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 19:32:08 +0000

Answer: Dear Kearton: I am going to treat this as a new question because you have broached some additional issues. Blessings, Luise

By: kearston henley

kearston henley — Thu, 07 Jun 2007 06:36:29 +0000

my mom just passed on the 23,may,2007. i am 28 and she was my only friend. Cancer is such a horrible way to go. I got mad at God is that normal? For some reason i am mad at my boyfriend and he has not done anything wrong. My mom was only 60 my dad is a truck driver so i just keep telling myself she is on the road with him. I can’t bring myself to go to the grave site. Its like i just can’t believe she is really gone.I dont know what to do or who to talk to. I am screaming inside and no one can hear me. I am so scared she has always been here and now shes not i just want her to come home. i have never lost anyone close to me before so these are all very new feelings i have and i do not like them at all. I will open her bedroom door just to smell her. when her hair started to fall out we just went ahead and shaved it I kept her hair I have the sheets she died on, the night gown she died in. Am i crazy or sometimes I feel like I have gone crazy. thank you Kearton

By: Luise

Luise — Tue, 16 Jan 2007 04:27:18 +0000

Answer: Dear Stephanie: Your dad is doing what many people do…turn elsewhere for comfort and a new beginning. It works for many, including my husband who married me in less than a year after he lost his sweetheart of 60 years. There is no such avenue open to most sons and daughters. My mom has been gone for 50 years and I still miss her terribly. Not all the time but on a regular basis. She too left too early. My son died at 52 and I just had to give up asking why I wasn’t taken instead of him. I think it’s time for you to get some help. Grief counseling is very specific and you need to honor yourself and your marriage if you can, by seeking some help with this. We are all different. Some people sail right through losing a mom and others are hit so hard they have a terrible time getting their balance. I once had a friend who was telling me all about losing her mom and describing how she felt. It was excruciating. I asked her how recently it had happened and she said 25 years ago. Don’t le that happen to you. Blessings, Luise

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Tue, 16 Jan 2007 00:10:08 +0000

It will be 1 year in April since my mom passed away. Her death has really put a toll on me and my marriage. I still think why did this happen to my mom she was young and still had a long life to live. I am still struggling with her being gone. I have made myself distant from my friends and my husband. I just don’t know how to get pass this. My dad has a new friend in his life now which is making things better for him. But I just wish it would get better for me.

By: Luise

Luise — Wed, 01 Nov 2006 19:30:10 +0000

Answer: Dear Debbie: I will treat your comment as a new question in the near future. Blessings, Luise

By: Debbie

Debbie — Thu, 26 Oct 2006 14:19:54 +0000

I lost my mom Oct 17th,2006. She was not sick or anything. She just went to sleep and woke up in heaven. I am devastated. My mom and I were very close. We had just relocated to SC from MD and had been here for a week when this happened. I wonder was the move too much for her? I was in Chicago at the time for work and she did not show in the morning to help my husband with my 9 yr old for school. She was 68. I feel lost and alone. I have moved 3 states from all my friends. I am having such a very difficult time dealing with this. My dad died when I was 22 to cancer and the pain I had then was different since I had a warning. I feel she was ripped away from me though. I have 1 brother but he and I are very distant. In fact the funeral was the first time I had seen him in almost 2 yrs. I am still dealing with cleaning out her apartment and all. We were here a week and she had the whole apartment entirely unboxed and she was ready to start working again she said. I do not know how to deal with this now….it does not make sense to me. I did not get to say good bye or tell her I love her one last time. How do I deal?