I’m Suffering Inside
Question: Dear Luise: Please help me. I have been with my boyfriend for three years. He was really good to me but that has changed. He says the meanest things. One day I’m his soul mate, the next day he wants me gone. His anger is destroying me and my love for him. He acts like he wants to be alone or with his friends. He works hard and I understand this but he is so cruel. He rolls his eyes when I ask for a kiss and shows no interest in me. I’m suffering inside. T.
Answer: Dear T.: It looks to me like your guy doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you any longer, He is obviously conflicted about ending it because you say he sometimes still refers to the Soul Mate thing. All of that “on again off again” stuff is about him, not you.
Another word for meanness is abuse. What you decide to do about being abused is about you, because the only person who can stop it is you. Not by getting him to change but by finding some other way to live your life. Being a target of someone else’s rage is not much of an existence and that’s what’s causing your suffering.
Move on. He’s no longer the person you hooked up with. All you’ve got is “how it used t be.” You would never pick this guy! Blessings, Luise
I
Related Posts:
- We’re Two Soul Mates Both Married to Someone Else
Question: Hi Luise: I hope you are well. I am desperately reaching out for your help!! If you know who your primary soul mate is... - Is He My Soul Mate
Question: Dear Luise: I have a question for you, but first a little information. I am in love for the first time and am wondering... - Put Downs Hurt
Question: Dear Luise: My husband is always trying to undermine my confidence. He criticizes me in front of others and when we are alone he... - How Can I Go On?
Question: Dear Luise: Presently I’m in a depression and my feelings can’t be shared with anybody. I’m a 20 years old girl and a college... - My Wife Hits Me
Question: Dear Luise: I feel strange writing to you but I really need some help with this. I’ve been married for two years and my...