Question: Dear Luise: I hope you can help me. I am staying for one month with a dear friend who is very ill with ovarian cancer. She will be home from the hospital after major surgery in a few days and I will be caring for her and her 13 year old daughter. I need to know how I can best serve her during this time. I am afraid when she starts chemo I wont know what to do to help her, and assist her daughter too. Love and Gratitude, Sue.
Answer: Dear Sue: You will have many of your questions answered at the institution where the chemotherapy is given, if you go with your friend and ask. There are so many kinds of cancers, chemo therapies and reactions that some of it will just be a “wait and see how she does” situation.
You are offering your friend and her daughter your generous heart. Your willingness to put your life on hold and give them a hand is such a caring thing to do. You can be a listening post. This must be very frightening to both of them. And you can be a source of comfort and encouragement.
How many of us can honesty say that we have someone who would be willing to do what you’re offering? It’s huge. In your prayers or meditations or however you get in touch with the Source of strength and counsel beyond your inner wisdom, ask for guidance and infinite patience. At the same time, know that your very presence is what is most needed, and specific actions will come naturally.
Follow-up from Sue: I want to say thank you so much for your response, I need all the support I can get to help support my friends. Love, Sue