Question: Dear Luise: Question: My daughter has a boyfriend and they both are 16 years old. He and his sister flirt all the time like they are going out, and my daughter feels uncomfortable with that. They act like they are the ones dating because they flirt all the time. What is going on here? A.
Answer: Dear A. I have no idea what’s going on, of course, but I know what it looks like and that would be enough to scare me off if I were your daughter. Her discomfort is telling her that’s three’s a crowd. Good for her!
It’s their game, whatever it is, and she deserves better. It’s not her job to tell him that he should change his behavior because it is in extremely bad taste. People don’t change permanently because of outside pressure; they change because of inside motivation.
The worst scenario is that your daughter is being used as a “front” for him. The most innocent interpretation is that he’s just having fun. The point here is that she isn’t. End of story! End the relationship! Blessings, Luise
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